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This website is fantastic! I can't say enough good about it! They have the best resources I have seen on teen dating violence. There are two videos (13 minutes and 30 minutes long) you can download. I recommend them to every junior high and high school. These videos are well made, interesting, and incredibly informative. There are radio ads, posters, flyers, and manuals that are all free to print out or download.

I recommend that anyone who is a teen, knows a teen, works with teens, cares about teens, and/or wants to help teens, spend some time looking at the resources of this website. It is such a powerful tool! Use it! I know I am!

Love Is Not Abuse

Dating Dangers, Power in You Program

Battered Men.com

Note: Most domestic violence books contain strong language and graphic examples of abuse.

My Latest FAVORITE book!: Bad Childhood, Good Life. Laura Schlessinger. Harper Collins, NYC, 2006

I love this book because of it's simple message: Bad things will happen to you, but you always have the ability to choose a good life. I am not a fan of the "victim" or "survivor" labels because of how narrowly they define a person. I'd much rather be "Sarah" or "Mom" or "Sweetheart" than be something determined by something bad that once happened. This is an excellent book, and I recommend to anyone who has experienced trauma in their life.

For Victims:

When Love Goes Wrong. Ann Jones, Susan Schechter. Harper Perennial Publishers, NYC, 1993.

Defending Our Lives. Susan Murphy-Milano. Anchor Books, NYC, 1996.

I Can't Get Over It. Aphrodite Matsakis. New Harbinger Publications, Oakland, 1996.

Trust After Trauma. Aprhodite Matsakis. New Harbinger Publications, Oakland, 1998.

When Dad hurts Mom- helping Your children heal the wounds of witnessing abuse. Lundy Bancroft. Berkley Trade, 2005.

For Families:

Helping Her Get Free. Susan Brewster. Seal Press Feminist Publications, Seattle, 2006.

But I love him, Protecting Your Teen Daughter. Jill Murray. Harper Collins, NYC, 2000.

For Teens:

In Love and In Danger. Barrie Levy. Seal Press Feminist Publications, Seattle, 1998.

Saving Beauty from the Beast. Vicki Crompton, Ellen Zelda Kessner. Little Brown & Co, Boston, 2003.

For Male Victims:

Abused Men: the hidden side of domestic violence. Phillip W. Cook. Praeger Publishers, Westport, 1997.

For Abusers:

When Good Men Behave Badly. David B. Wexler. New Harbinger Publications, Oakland, 2004.

For Anyone:

When Love Goes Wrong. Ann Jones, Susan Schechter. Harper Perennial Publishers, NYC, 1993.

Trauma and Recovery, the aftermath of violence- from domestic violence to political terror. Judith Herman. Basic Books,NYC, 1997.

Imperfect Control: our lifelong struggles with power and surrender. Judith Viorst. Simon & Schuster, New York, 1998.

Love and Respect. Emerson Eggerichs. Integrity Publishers, Brentwood, 2004.

The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage. Laura Schlessinger. Harper Collins, NYC, 2007.

For quick viewing online, click the link below:
Amazon.com Listmania

For Fun: these are non-abuse books I highly recommend-

For Grownups:

Preschool Confidential. Sandi Kahn Shelton. St. Martin's Press, 2001.

For Kids of all Ages:

Time Stops for No Mouse (Hermux Tantamoq Adventures). Michael Hoeye. Puffin, 2003

Diary of a Worm. Doreen Cronin and Harry Bliss. Joanna Cotler, 2003.

These are my two new favorite kids' books! They were too cute! I loved reading them!

Golden & Grey: An unremarkable boy and rather remarkable ghost. Louise Arnold, McElderberry Books, 2005.

Golden & Grey: The nightmares that ghosts have. Louise Arnold, McElderberry Books, 2006.

© 2003, Sarah Southerland