Chances are that you are friends with someone who regularly abuses their partner, and you don't even know it. Anybody can choose to become abusive, and, sadly, anybody can become a victim. Here are a few things to look for in an abuser:
- is selfish and/or self-centered
- blames others for his actions and refuses to accept responsibility for his mistakes
- pushes for quick commitment (wants to be engaged after one date)
- is consistently jealous (but calls it "true love") and isolates the victim
- has sudden, frequent mood swings with extreme highs and lows
- acts cocky and "macho," brags about his strength, skill, or weapons
- always has to be right and never compromises
Advice for Abusers
- Recognize that YOU have a problem.
- Get help.
- Believe that you can change your bad behaviors.
- Pray for guidance.
- Accept the consequences of your bad behaviors.
- Don't lose hope-keep trying!